This comment by Laura on the post What To Do If Your Girlfriend Doesn’t Want To Have Sex
You know, it took me until I was much older to realize what my dad was trying to say when he told me as a teenager that “you can’t live in the bedroom.” I would rather have sex less often than I might want it and have a partner that I am in sync with in every other area of life. Sex is sex. It’s nice to have, but it’s really not the end of the world if I don’t get it as often as I would like. So many things, especially as we get older can detract from our sex drives. Why take it personally? Why worry over it? It’s just sex. The more you make your partner feel pressured and make it a huge deal, the more it will be a huge deal. It’s not the end of the world if you don’t get it as often as you want. Maybe it is because my guy is gone for such long periods of time at a time and I have had to learn to deal, but of all the things I miss when he’s gone, I miss the small chatting throughout the day, the sweet flirting, the helpfulness and support I get from him. I couldn’t see ever trading those things in for a new partner just because I can’t get sex as often as I like. I don’t, after all, live in the bedroom. I do, however, love living with him.
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Food for Thought:
Sex drives and need for sex changes and diminishes as we age. Need for intimacy, love, tenderness and touch does not. Why concentrate only on sex?
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